Table 6.
Have symptoms disadvantaged your daily life?
‘I have been kicked out of places, ignored in queues, rejected in interviews.’ |
‘During my A levels it was a very tough time for me socially, I was very anxious about TMAU which was my main focus and not my studies. I did not feel comfortable talking to pastoral support about this due to embarrassment, fear of lack of understanding and further ostracism. Through school I struggled to maintain friendships and never really fit into a group.’ |
‘Particularly at work, unable to attend meetings. I no longer have a circle of friends and no socialising beyond my immediate family.’ |
‘Broke up Uni, struggle to find work, cannot work anymore with customer face to face, cannot live anymore with someone, no partnership/relationship, struggle to go shopping.’ |
‘I had to leave my job of 25 years due to physical and emotional bullying I gave up a good pension and have worked as a gardener ever since. My tmau symptoms have caused social anxiety, and I have missed out on a lot of social events.’ |
‘I’ve avoided joining clubs and other social groups for fear of embarrassment. I’ve lowered my expectations of friendships, relationships etc.’ |
‘My last time at work was stressful (a) because of the work itself and (b) because of the odour. I felt suicidal. I retired earlier than I would have done if not for this condition.’ |
‘It puts you off trying to achieve anything as you dread comments coming your way.’ |
‘Conscious and subconscious fear at work and in social life. |
‘I used to go out to pubs and clubs and when the symptoms became very strong I tried everything and eventually had to stop going out completely, I had to change jobs constantly and try to get shorter working hours.’ |
‘I have lost work because of my odours. Also I have lost relationships because of the shock that I smell badly. I have not had a relationship for 20 years as I am afraid of the inevitable comments.’ |
‘Not going to family events, missing out Not shopping due to fear of being in queue.’ |
‘Social interaction become a problem as my confidence is non existent.’ |
‘I don’t want to attend any social functions, no one wants to talk to me either’. |
‘Difficult to work and socialise with people when experience negative reactions and comments.’ |
‘I have avoided getting romantically involved with anyone.’ |
‘People do not treat me as a human being. The neighbours all discuss my smell. People move away from me all the time. I have no confidence in my life to go outside, even going outside to buy groceries is a difficulty. No one talks or sits next to me at work. I just try to hide as much as possible. I am constantly paranoid, I hate my life.’ |
‘Because people can smell my symptoms and make comments it has lead me to have social anxiety and now I have no friends and only go out to go to work.’ |
‘Some people wouldn’t make plans with me, other simply don’t speak to me.’ |
‘I moved to working nights which has further impacted opportunities available to me.’ |
I have isolated myself because I’ve become so paranoid on how people will react to me. I don’t smile as much anymore, I’m constantly crying, I feel suicidal at times, it comes to a point where you feel like what’s the point of going ahead in your life.’ |
‘I’ve had to leave some jobs that I’ve loved just because I couldn’t cope with the comments, whispers and looks from others. I am too terrified and paranoid to put myself back into that situation again.’ |
‘I’ve been dismissed from job after job.’ |
‘I tend to put myself in less social situations and isolate myself.’ |
‘fear of bullying determines where i place myself physically in relation to others at all times so i never choose to be in a room with others, unless i have no option. I long for a job i can do at home to avoid ‘public’ work and transport. I have stayed in very poorly paid jobs if they gave me less social contact. i didnt take driving lessons because of enclosed space in car. i never socialise now. shopping only online. cut own hair.’ |
‘Not enough attention during education settings due to my perceived smell. Additionally, also avoid social situations and people generally avoid me.’ |