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. Author manuscript; available in PMC: 2008 May 5.
Published in final edited form as: Afr J Reprod Health. 2007;11(3):221–235.
Moderator: So, these [expressions], what do they mean?
Participant: I don’t know - we say - maybe [young people] use these words so that some people will not [understand] them.
Moderator: So, how do you know that she/he means that? How does it begin among adolescents to reach the point of [saying things like] “toothpaste on a toothbrush”?
Participant: It’s like, you heard it somewhere - these same adolescents - maybe when you are chatting with them, it happens that you talk about those issues, so when talking about those things, [like how] we want “to soak between beans” - [all laugh] - so, if said like that, it means this and that.
Moderator: So, do they use this amongst themselves or just like that?
Participant: They understand each other; when they see a girl on this side - there are many girls, so, they shout when playing with them that they want “to put water on the beans.” […]
Participant: Some put on [condoms] while others don’t. They refuse, saying [candy] is not eaten whilst in a wrapper.
Moderator: What does that mean?
Participant: So, if you are intelligent, you ask that [Should an intelligent person ask that]? They say you can’t [have] sex with a condom. They say “meat-to-meat should meet” (laughter!). They say “stone to stone” (laughter!)
Moderator: Stone to stone?
Participants: Mmmh!
Participant: It’s not “stone to condom” (laughter).
(females, urban, out-of-school, 15–19)