Table 2.

Positive and Negative Descriptions of the Move and Household Disbandment

	Negative	Positive
Elder	“It’s been so hard on me.” “very upsetting” “loved the [former place]” “everything is gone” “broke my heart” “don’t know what happened to it” “really hurt me” “hated to move”	“huge help” “fun” “love . . . [aspect of new home]” “I like little houses better” “I have great ambition for this house” “consistent worry” (former place) “great to be here”
Helper	“extraordinarily draining” “responsibility placed on my shoulders” “It was getting ugly” “I felt stuck” “needed counseling” “I feel like I’m a bitch” “furious” “trying to recover from the effort” “horrible”	“such a huge relief” “Mom was a trooper” “able to make the place feel like home” “wonderful” “she has a blast” “she loves it” “having a great time”