Table 5.

Illustrations of related positive and negative partner qualities.

Light Side	Dark Side	R’s Gender
Sensitive, very romantic	Moody	F
Met through the Internet	Long distance relationship	M
Her take-charge attitude	Her need to control	F
Self-confidence	Narcissism	F
Femme-looking… had butch attitude	Extremely dramatic at times	F
Cool, laid back, but exciting	Drug use	M
Not stick-skinny	Not very athletic	F
Gave me flowers, put notes in my lunch	He was a bit of a “con-man”	M
Butchy, strong	Impatient	F
Spontaneous, funny	Crass, inappropriately loud	F
A bit shy	Too much of a lone wolf	M
Very femme	Her need to be closeted	F
Kind manner	Lack of life goals	M