Table 3. Illustrations of Friendship Norms From Participants’ Open-Ended Responses and Percentage of Responses Evoking Each Norm.

Behavior	Percentage of Comments With Similar Response
Friend told secret
Norm of trust	54.5%
“Confidential information should be held in trust.” (male   respondent, female friend)
Friend cancels plans
Norm of commitment	24.6%
“He’s choosing another person over you after making plans   with you.” (female respondent, male friend)
Norm of support	20.3%
“Maybe Jim needs a little romance. We could go to the movies  some other time.” (male respondent, male friend)
Friend asks to stay at your house
Norm of helping	43.2%
“If you are a real friend, you will be happy to help.” (female   respondent, female friend)
Friend stops by unexpectedly
Norm of respect and consideration	35.1%
“He was not considerate.” (male respondent, male friend)
Friend gives kiss on cheek
Norm of affection (positive)	50%
“We are friends and we’re glad to see each other!” (female  respondent, female friend)
Norm of affection (negative)
“As I am a male, I would not enjoy being kissed by another   male.” (male respondent, male friend)
Friend won’t confide
Norm of respect for privacy	32.1%
“Sometimes people want to keep things private—you should respect   that and stop nagging.” (female respondent, female friend)
Friend didn’t stand up for you
Norm of loyalty	32.8%
“If he is my friend, he should have said something on my   behalf.” (female respondent, male friend)