Table 6.

Exemplar quotations of the word pair 'blaming/forgiving.'

Blaming	Cog21	Blaming is ... when you hang on to an event and think, "if only I could have changed it" ...and then you explain all subsequent failure with that event.
	Cog27	That you want to blame people for everything that happens. ... you want to find a scapegoat; you want to find a reason that that happened.
Forgiving	Cog09	I allow myself to make mistakes, and when I do, I don't grind myself into the floor for it, and the same with other people.
	Cog13	Just being more merciful with myself and other people. Just letting things go, and not holding on to them. I feel like I am much more forgiving, actually.