Interviewer:	So when you went for testing did you tell your husband or you just went?
Ruth:	I told him that there was no reason to be afraid of knowing how your blood is but he denied [refused to go], so I went by myself. So he was saying I was doubting myself.
Interviewer:	Alright, so did you encourage him to go one day or did you just give up?
Ruth:	No, I didn’t give up, I always tell him. The first time I went I told him that you should also go so that we can have proof that we are alright, but if you don’t then I will be having doubts that maybe my husband is positive or negative. I will not be sure. The second time I went I told him the same thing, but to no avail.
Interviewer:	So what does he really say, I’ll go later or I can’t go?
Ruth:	He says that he can’t go, that those who go for testing are doubting themselves [think they could be HIV-positive because of past sexual behaviour]. They don’t trust themselves.
Interviewer:	How do you feel when he answers you that way?
Ruth:	It pains me. I see that he is not helping me and the children. (semi-structured interview, female #10, age 23)