Messaging from health care team |
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Parental assumptions and expectations |
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“at 14, no way would she do that”
“12 is a difficult, in-between age. Maybe if he was younger or older he would (been convinced to) have tried the [formula].”
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Social concerns |
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Integration into school, activities, not eating
“EEN would be socially isolating”
“patient became emotional about not eating (worried about missing the food he liked; being different from his friends)”
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Guilt |
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Parents felt that he had already been through so much that they did not want to upset him further
“At 10 or 11, it was hard to imagine that he could only drink when his friends were eating”
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Focus on benefits of EEN, not only challenges
Importance of connecting parents with experienced parents
Involve social work or health psychology
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Child as the decision maker |
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“Parents have to respect the wishes of their children (even very young children). The option of a steroid was the only one our son wanted to look at, so we had to go with his wishes.” (Pt was 10 years old when EEN was offered)
“You can’t make your teen do what they don’t want to do”
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Be sure child is present and actively engaged in discussions regarding treatment
The child is a key player in the decision making, but they are not the only player – parental involvement is also important; a difficult decision to make alone
Engage supports such as peers – connect with patient who has been on EEN
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Adaptation |
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“It seems so traumatic at first, but you have to look ahead. There are so many possibilities for a good outcome.”
“it is hard, but it will get a lot better”
“nervous but relieved [at decision to place NG tube]”. The tube was in for 10½ weeks… Stayed in; changed 3 times. Very successful. She gained weight.”
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