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. 2016 Jun 1;5(3):203–208. doi: 10.1089/g4h.2015.0056

Table 2.

Structure and Revisions for Game-Based Feedback Statements Regarding Vegetable Parenting Practices

  Tested feedback Revised feedback
Vegetable parenting practice Softener “What” statement “Why” statement Statement Main revisions
C1. Guilt Oh no! This laid on the guilt. You want [Child's Name] to eat veggies because it will make [him/her] healthy, not because it will make you happy. Oh no! This might make [Child's Name] feel guilty. You want [Child's Name] to eat veggies because it will make [him/her] healthy, not because it will make you happy. Instead, be a role model and show [CHILD'S NAME] that you enjoy veggies. Effective alternative added, mommy guilt removed (“might” added)
C2. Anger Oops! You lost your temper and got angry. If you get angry, [Child's Name] might get angry right back. Then the meal is sure to be a disaster. Uh oh! You lost your temper and got angry. Using this tone might cause anger in [CHILD'S NAME], raising tension for everyone. It might take several attempts; try again at a later meal. Effective alternative added, inevitability removed, explanation clarified
C3. Force Oops! This was demanding. Take some deep breaths and try again when you are both calmer. Oops! This was demanding. Statements like these can cause [CHILD's NAME] to not like veggies. Take some deep breaths and try again in a few minutes when you are both calmer. Effective alternative clarified, explanation added
C4. Threat Oh no! You used a threat to get [Child's Name] to eat. If you serve the veggies with threats, you'll leave a bad taste in his/her mouth that lasts a long time. Oh no! You used a threat to get [Child's Name] to eat. Linking food to punishment can have lasting, damaging effects on a child. If [NAME] is upset, acknowledge it and then calmly move on to a positive topic. Effective alternative added, explanation clarified, colloquialism removed
C5. Begging Uh oh. You begged [Child's Name] to eat. If you're begging, you already lost this round. Now [Child's Name] has learned the magic power of “no.” Uh oh. You begged [Child's Name] to eat. If you're begging, you have lost control of the situation. You can avoid this problem by approaching meals as an opportunity to share time together. Effective alternative added, casual language removed
C6. Pressure Oh no! This put pressure on [Child's Name] to eat. Try to humor [Child's Name] into eating instead of insisting. Oh no! This pressured [CHILD'S NAME] to eat. This can cause [CHILD'S NAME] to eat because [he/she] feels [he/she] must and not because [he/she] is learning to like veggies. You may have more luck if you talk to [CHILD'S NAME] about why veggies are healthy. Effective alternative added, explanation added, casual and vague language removed
C7. Bribe Uh oh. This was a bribe. Eating veggies should be its own reward. The reward is enjoyable flavors and good health. Uh oh. This was a bribe. One bribe will lead to another, and then [CHILD's NAME] will eat for the bribe instead of learning to like veggies. Next time, tell [CHILD'S NAME] that veggies will give [him/her] energy to play. Effective alternative added, explanation modified
C8. Neutral   This combination of facial expression, voice tone and statement neither helped nor hurt you. The statement was not as supportive as it could have been, but you did choose an appropriate voice tone and facial expression. Not bad! You used a great voice and face, but you could have chosen a better statement. Keep up the tone, but next time try role modeling enjoying veggies. Effective alternative added, softener added, succinct language
E1. Involvement Awesome! This turned mealtime into a group activity. It also transformed eating veggies from a necessary thing to a fun group activity. Awesome! You turned mealtime into a group activity. It also transformed eating veggies from a chore into something fun to do together. Vague language removed
E2. Support Excellent! You showed [Child's Name] you care about [him/her] when you said this. Listening is a form of caring. So is serving veggies. Doing them together helps [Child's Name] understand that. Excellent! You showed [Child's Name] you care about [him/her] when you said this. Listening is a form of caring, and this helps [Child's Name] understand that you care about [him/her] during meals. Grammar corrected, succinct language
E3. Encouragement Excellent! You asked [Child's Name] to eat veggies because they are appealing. Praising good choices is a great way to be sure [Child's Name] makes those choices again. Excellent! You asked [Child's Name] to eat veggies because they are appealing. Praising good choices is a great way to be sure [Child's Name] makes those choices again. No change
E4. Reason Good job. This explained that veggies are healthy in an understandable way. Now [Child's Name] will understand that food that is good for [him/her] can also taste good. Good job. This explained that veggies are healthy in an understandable way. Now [Child's Name] might understand that it is important to try food that is good for [him/her]. Broadened to match game choice