Table 3.

Pros and Cons of Mona's Detached Protector Mode.

Pros of “The Shield”	Con's of “The Shield”
• Nobody can hurt me or abandon me • I have fewer conflicts with others • I do not have such awful feelings • I do not feel my needs and this is less painful, as I never get what I need anyway • I can control myself better e.g., do not have to cry • I feel safer • I have less awful memories • There is more silence	• I have no connection to others, I feel lonely and depressed • It feels empty and cold • It is boring • It still hurts and never stops • I do not have good contact with myself, I have no idea what I want in life. I have no control in my life • I have no idea about my emotions and needs, thus I can't fulfill my needs • I can't learn other strategies to deal with my problems and emotions