Table 5.

Responses given by key-informants asked to give more information about the change reported by community members: ‘Conflict has been reduced; peace in families has increased’

Responses (22 respondents)	Number of respondents who mentioned change
We advise each other in the group on how we can resolve our respective family conflicts	12
We learnt to work hard in our families which kept us busy and had little time for arguments	10
We advised ourselves to change and leave bad behaviors	7
People are encouraged to maintain peace and love in their families and to respect the family members	6
IPT-G groups taught us to stop drinking alcohol so that we can avoid the problems that come along with drunkenness	4
Working together and looking for money together as husband and wife has increased development and unity in families	4
We advise and reconcile those who have wrong each other	4
We encourage our group members to maintain trust in their families	4
We work together in our families to get what we need at home	3
We learned to separate important things from those that are not important. We are now not easily offended	3
We learnt to keep our family secrets	3
Women now know their husbands’ jobs and their incomes	3
Counseling brought back hope in people and they were restored to their normal senses	3
We stopped quarreling in public	3
We removed bad thoughts from our minds	2
We visit ourselves in our homes and we get to know about our family problems and advise each other accordingly	2
People are afraid to die and leave their children as orphans	2
We learnt to talk about issues and to compromise with our husbands	2
We were taught to be patient and forebear our spouses when they are in the wrong	2
Good communication between husband and wife reduces conflicts in families	2
we talk to men about their responsibilities in families	2
Them are less fights and quarrels in families because people have now some money	2
We taught our children to behave well	2
we were advised to avoid envying each other and others	2
We learned to take care of our husbands, to welcome them back and to prepare for them good meals (our duties)	2
We were taught to do for our husbands things that make them happy	2
We refer people to other community members who are more knowledgeable than us	1
People infected with HIV/AIDS are advised to go to hospitals for help	1
There are less diseases (sickness) in families and this has reduced conflicts in family members	1
Togetherness with husband and wife is good because each is free to share his/her thoughts which minimizes misunderstandings	1
We instill into ourselves the heart of not mistreating our wives, but to treat them well	1
People reduced their levels of anger,  which was a major cause of fighting in families	1
We were taught that every person is useful to another	1
People were taught to love each other and to forgive each other	1
We advise ourselves in our groups about our problems without blaming (judging) each other	1
We realized our own personal faults and mistakes	1
Wives were allowed to by their husbands to receive their personal visitors	1
We were taught not to be greedy	1
We were taught to avoid listening to rumors or gossiping	1
We are taught to be creative in our families	1
We learned to give our husbands respect	1
We have learned to find the right time to deliver criticism to our spouses	1