Table AI.

Subject position spouse as actor, person categories and category actions.

Subject position	Spouse as actor
Person Categories Participants,	Actor		Dog
Person Categories Researcher,	Actor	Skilled actor	Dog
Participants Categorized Actions	“keep a poker face”, “a bit like an actor”, “hold it inside”, “be able to lie”, “pat my head”. “I´m not a dog”, “I let her pat”, “we used to have a dog”, “, “to bite together and pretend”, “I avoid telling or talking about how I feel”, “he doesn’t have that understanding anymore”, “ “it´s just one of the white lies”, “I want to be here beside you. “	“I don’t say anything, I let her pat…”, “…He´s afraid of losing me or that something could happen to me”, “I avoid telling or talking about how I feel”, “these white lies that I tell” “I have never lied to my husband before”, “you have to do it”, “	“Pat my head”, “I´m not a dog”, “I let her pat”, “we used to have a dog”
Researchers Categorized Actions	acting, hide, pretend, deny the truth, can´t or doesn’t tell the truth, accept the false reality for the moment	wanted, experienced, flexible, know when something is important/necessary, the assigned role doesn’t defines the original self protects, helps avoiding unwished or uncomfortable consequences or situations, has given up on trying to change an assigned role	accept false reality for a moment, deny his real belonging, acting like a dog