Internalized Stigma |
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Fellows give a toast. If I cannot drink I feel ashamed |
I feel ashamed when I decline to drink. |
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Q: Did you feel uneasy for not drinking with friends? |
I feel embarrassed when I decline to drink. |
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A: Yes, I did. |
Experienced Stigma |
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If I quit drinking successfully, I would just stay alone! |
I become isolated from my family when I do not drink. |
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It means, if friends offer alcohol to you, but you don't join, they may think that you disregard them |
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It makes friends feel closer to one another. Inviting friends to go out and drink once in a while will make us feel closer to each other, and we will find it easier to say the things that we normally cannot. |
I become isolated from my friends when I do not drink. |
Anticipated Stigma |
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I’m afraid that I cannot quit as there are banquets or anniversaries in which drinking is a part |
I feel forced to drink at celebrations, such as a wedding or funerals |
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When men from other table say that they want to toast for our health (a group of women), how can we refuse? |
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You see, when I have guests or when I am invited by my friends, I drink li\le. I mainly drink on my family’s occasions. For instance, at the weddings of my kindred families, I drink much because my cousins, my aunts, my uncles and my descendants want me to drink with them. |
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Yes, mocking (laughing), such as: “Are you afraid of your wife” or “do you feel sorry to spend money on this” … they try to find any reason to force their friends drinking. |
I am mocked when I do not drink. |
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To be frank, if I totally stop drinking I have to do the following. If I could stop drinking from now on, I have to stop working, will not meet and exchange with friends and I just do family work not drinking “prevents my work” |
My business relationships will suffer if I stop drinking. |