Table 3.

Four ways parents and their child interrelate when their goals are either aligned or not aligned, based on a combination of the parents’ viewpoint and the child’s viewpoint

		The parents’ viewpoint
		We take the lead regarding the child’s participation	Our child takes the lead regarding his/her own participation
The child’s viewpoint	My parents take the lead regarding my participation	Scenario 1: The parents take the lead	Scenario 3: Neither the parents nor the child want to take the lead
	I take the lead regarding my own participation	Scenario 2: Both the parents and the child want to take the lead	Scenario 4: The child takes the lead