Four relational practices4.

Practice	Meaning	Language
Attuning	Practice of human connection Shutting out distractions, focusing attention, and listening Being present Noticing	Thank you for coming to me... I feel honored that you would share... It makes sense you would feel....
Wondering	Practice of curiosity and genuine interest Suspending judgment and assumptions Noticing Listening	How are you...really? What worries you? What's most important to you? What do you need?
Following	Practice of quiet listening Staying with what we hear and notice Being in the moment Allowing expression of emotions	Tell me more about... Do I have this right? What's most important to you right now?
Holding	Practice of creating a safe space Doing what we said we would do Remembering what we've been told Taking the right action Listening without defense Honoring boundaries	I remember when you told me... I'll follow through and make sure... Thank you for being open and vulnerable with me... I'm here.