Table 2.

Example responses by the pronoun type

We	I	He/she/they
“Last night we ate on our patio and he asked if I would turn Alexa on to play music. And as we finished our meal I was walking him back to our sitting area in the bedroom and one of the songs that came on was a romantic song. He used to be an extraordinary, award-winning dancer. So I took his arms and held on to him and we danced for a few minutes. It was pretty special.”	“I feel really close with my mom when she gets up in the morning. Every morning I go and over to her when she is waking up and say ‘Good morning, mom! It's a beautiful day today’ and I start singing to her too. I always try to talk with her even though she can't say any real words but I will tell her about the plans for the day and she'll smile and she looks really happy. It reminds me that my mom is still ‘there’ and seeing her happy and laughing makes everyone else happy.”	“Yeah sure, we feel very connected in general. Just a few nights ago, he woke up in the middle of the night, he was hugging me and saying all these things. He was being very affectionate in his sleep, wrapping his arms around me and putting his legs around me. Other things, he can be very funny and humorous and I feel really connected when he shares these stories.”
“Let's see…usually after we eat supper, we usually will watch TV or listen to music. We don't converse but we sit there with each other. She will smile and even laugh when we are together. We will be sitting there and she will smile and laugh with me.”	“I was gone out of town on business for a few days. He doesn't have any sense of time anymore, so he'll forget I was home if I leave the room for a minute. Every night I give him a kiss goodnight, but he takes a medication that makes him really pass out. But every night when I kiss him goodnight he always puckers his lips to kiss me back, which is amazing considering the medication. So when I got back from my business trip I figured he wouldn't remember that I had been gone for the past week. But when I went to kiss him goodnight he not only kissed me but smiled and gave a little laugh. And I could just tell that he had missed me and was happy I was home.”	“Just being with her, spending time with her and knowing that she's well cared for by her family is enough. I wouldn't want to send her to a senior home. I just want to do my job as a daughter and be there for her until the very end. I'm going to be there for her just like she has for me.”
“We had gone somewhere but I don't remember where we had gone and we had a good and that evening we had what was the most normal conversation we've had in a long time. I was quite surprised by how clear and focused she was”	“He held me when I was crying. My cousin's son died due to PTSD. I was really sad and he saw me crying. He just held me. He rubbed my back. It was really tender and sweet. He was there for me even in his illness.”	“When we were on our return flight from our travels, there was a little bit of a delay but I had downloaded a bunch of tv shows he liked, provided some drawing pads and he just perked right up. I felt good because I had an answer for him whenever he's stressed. He was really excited to go home and I'm glad he didn't feel overwhelmed from the delay. He even hugged and kissed me on the plane and when the plane took off, he clapped his hands. He was happy to return to the comforts of his home.”