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. 2012 Nov;130(5):897–905. doi: 10.1542/peds.2012-0663

TABLE 2.

Developmental Considerations in Adaptation of Five Wishes and MTMWMV

Developmental Task Participant Feedback Changes Made
Gain independence and formulate self-identity Having a say in who visits; making specific decisions Being able to choose where they want to be and who they would like with them when the end of life is near
Having spiritual thoughts and wishes respected Specify who goes through their belongings
Deciding what happens to their body after death Provides an optional spiritual section
Opportunity to document whether they would want a postmortem autopsy or to donate their body to science in addition to choices around burial/cremation
Age-appropriate interests Items should be more age-appropriate Inclusion of items related to music/food preferences
Removal of items related to assisted living and nursing home
Strengthening peer and romantic relationships Five Wishes focuses only on family Integrated “friends” where references made to family and/or loved ones
Includes designating visits from friends, classmates, co-workers
Provides space for letters to be written to those they care about
Defining future role in life and feeling understood No place to document a positive outcome out of their death Place to share how they would like to be remembered on certain days or holidays (e.g., award in my name at graduation, money given to favorite charity on Christmas, donations in lieu of flowers at funeral)
Being able to share regrets Section on forgiveness expanded
No place to designate distribution of belongings Section to bequeath belongings
Dealing with immortality Being remembered Added section allowing them to describe how they want to be remembered
Establish a sense of control over diagnosis/treatment, including relinquishing control when ready Some medical terms/concepts are difficult to understand Written using developmentally appropriate language
A place to document preferred types of emotional and physical comfort Provided a narrative explaining the purpose of each section of the document
Provided a glossary for more advanced terminology
More specific options on pain control
How they would like their appearance to be when visitors come to see them
Specify degree of alertness balanced with level of comfort care
Other Format More open-ended questions and room to elaborate
Title needs to be changed: my wish is not to die Title changed to emphasize that their choices are being respected and their voice is being heard